Five stars

Over lunch today one of my friends piped up saying that she had her eye on a cute guy and how that sort of guy would never go for a girl like her.

I don't know if that's common in guys but what I know is, that kind of self-degrading talk is pretty common in girls. We're pretty concerned about a lot of our imperfections and I don't know what's worse having a massive self-confidence ( in psychology, there's this way of thinking called self-serving bias) or not having confidence at all.

And it's really questionable how we can ensure we're good enough for another person, like is there guidelines? I'm not even sure if I'm good for a person, how do I make sure I'm "good enough" ? Hahaha, Well, lucky for me, I've been brought up by a family of the noisiest and self- confident women alive so that sort of self-degrading talk is really shunned upon in my household. #hobinjanghobin

And I dated enough to know how sometimes it's not about how wonderful you are anyway, it's about how you fit into another person. You see a lot of people trading down after dating, trust me girls, sometimes it's not about you, it's just a matter of whether you fit into another person's life.

Sure, self-esteem and self-worth are topics which plague everybody, male or female and are worth talking about,

But well, I guess when it comes to dating another person, in my opinion, it just comes down to whether that person treats you like a five-star girl. (or boy) And I really don't agree with what most people say about how eventually the fireworks die down and you stop making effort.

I think life is about continuous effort, not just for your other half but for yourself.

And before you commit yourself to another person, I think it's worth working on yourself and whipping yourself into good shape first, showing yourself a good time and spoiling yourself first.

I think self-appreciation stems from yourself and no matter how much another person appreciates you, you can't really achieve a sort of peace inside you if you can't appreciate yourself first.

Jonker > Masjid Cina Negeri Melaka > Klebang

Meet my pretty gurls . Adventure buddiez 

 

First stop - Jonker 88. Different kinda ambience. Good food but we needed to fight for a table hahaha. Tried out the cendol durian, nyonya asam laksa (not much of a laksa person but I'll make an exception for nyonya asam laksa oo la la, hahaha , and also the durian puffs. So much durian in a day)

 

Hey, they're leaving A'isyah and me behind!

 

Next stop- Masjid Cina Negeri Melaka for zohor and asar prayers. It's one of the famous mosques in Malacca, after Masjid Selat which is also very pretty :3 

Shamelessly posing while Meor is forced to become our unpaid photographer. 

See how pretty it is? 

 

And finally... the highlight of my day! Going to Klebang. From the age of 8-10, I lived 3 mins from the beach in Sepang so I kind of missed going to the beach so frequently. I forgot how wonderful it was to just sit around at the beach. That's like one of the best feelings in the world yknow. 

 

Hidayah's masterpiece- a sand turtle. 

 

Us girls again! 

Trips with all of us together is difficult to do nowadays. Everybody is constantly busy with university, their other buddies and ofcourse, boyfriends and other stuff. So, when we do get together it feels wonderful, and it's almost a relief to me because I've never found anybody I could open up to more than my best friends. Good friends like them are really hard to come by, yknow.

And I think we have to endeavour to do trips like this more before we get even busier hahaha. And I hope that even after we get older, have our respective careers and even families, Insha Allah, we can still maintain our closeness. Because this is really such a huge component of life. 

 

To sum up how great the coconut shake was... yummy!

Taman Botani Negara Shah Alam (30th August 2015)

 

The view from that look-out tower (forgot what it's called hahahaha) 

I like gardens (eventhough I dont make much effort with the garden at my house lol) - I don't consider myself much of a nature person but oh wellz.

 

Taman Rimba - pretty lonely stretch of brick road. 

 

Welcome to my new home- sick of cities, I'm considering relocating to the middle of nowhere (just kidding, Shah Alam is not the middle of nowhere but it might as well be hewhew #subanglagicool) 

Floating hearts versus keladi cabang - which sounds more romantic? hahahaha

 

 

Next stop , taman bunga empat musim. Which was really a few rooms with artificial flowers and peacocks in air-conditioning. Really pretty to see but the real flowers were a lot prettier.

 

Meet my new buddy, Mr Parrot.

Meet my not-so-new "buddy" whom I've been torturing a lot these couple of months hehe. So, I can't wait for the next escapade with this favourite boy of mine (yes, girls, he's taken, back off :3 )

The Daily Struggle

Thinking whether I should settle for this , because is this all there is?